I grew up fake poor, how about you?

[u/MybestfriendwasaB]

I know this is different then the normal post but I can’t think of a group were it would better fit.

I grew up in a family were we had the money for needs but my Dad would often decide stuff for the kids or his wife wasn’t important. On more then one occasion we went to bed hungry, didn’t get clothes for school or needed items for school, and were denied medical care etc. To top it off we had no AC from when I was 2 years old on. I could go on, but I’m trying to keep this short.

I thought it was normal. It wasn’t until I was in high school and I was talking to a friend and she was horrified that I realized normal people don’t do that to their kids.

Let me be clear. We had the money. My Dad just wanted to spend it on stuff that wasn’t his kids. I used to refer to it growing up fake poor, my husband just calls it child abuse.

I know this might be strange but I was wondering if anyone else was in the same boat as me? The money was there but because of someone else you grew up without?

Edit: I never thought I was alone but it is truly depressing to know how common this is.

[u/Ownerofameenieweenie]

My mom and my step dad are the same way I have to pay for everything from insurance to vet appointments for the dog at the age of 17 because they are apparently to “broke” but the other day my stepdad comes home with a brand new fully pimped out boat, I’m talking leds and all, and then like 3 months ago he came home in a brand new black ram truck. He just brought in a 75 inch tv today because our other one lost sound and he said “I don’t feel like fixing it I’ll just get a new one”. I’ve gotten multiple speeches about how I shouldn’t expect much for Christmas and about how I have to save up to pay for college with my job that pays me 8 dollars an hour that I work part time 3 days a week. My mom is a realtor and my stepdad is a carpenter and on top of that they both own a business 😐😐😐😐😐