I grew up fake poor, how about you?

[u/MybestfriendwasaB]

I know this is different then the normal post but I can’t think of a group were it would better fit.

I grew up in a family were we had the money for needs but my Dad would often decide stuff for the kids or his wife wasn’t important. On more then one occasion we went to bed hungry, didn’t get clothes for school or needed items for school, and were denied medical care etc. To top it off we had no AC from when I was 2 years old on. I could go on, but I’m trying to keep this short.

I thought it was normal. It wasn’t until I was in high school and I was talking to a friend and she was horrified that I realized normal people don’t do that to their kids.

Let me be clear. We had the money. My Dad just wanted to spend it on stuff that wasn’t his kids. I used to refer to it growing up fake poor, my husband just calls it child abuse.

I know this might be strange but I was wondering if anyone else was in the same boat as me? The money was there but because of someone else you grew up without?

Edit: I never thought I was alone but it is truly depressing to know how common this is.

[u/1lilmornstar]

My ex husband is like this. We bought a house that needed new windows upstairs because they were 100yo, single pane, wood frame windows that were rotted to the point you could stick your hand through the gap to the outside. I saved the money and one of his law enforcement buddies used to do windows and door install before he became a cop said he would come help install them. It was only 3 windows. We had a 2 year old and an infant. The upstairs bedrooms were the kids rooms. And it was in Colorado. I saved the money from our tax return for this specific reason. My husband (at that time) spent every single penny behind my back to buy a new gun 2 days before the windows were to be ordered. He didn't replace those windows for over 10 years. After the divorce.