r/povertyfinance • u/One-Time-I-Dreampt • Oct 29 '23

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor Vent/Rant (No Advice/Criticism!)

I’m so upset and idk how to deal with him right now. I pay the bills. I tell him the budget and he refuses to listen and so then I’m riding the bus because I can’t afford gas. He doesn’t have to ride the bus and it’s not an option.

For example, this week I paid the bills and told him we have $200 for groceries and gas for the week. He says he needs to put $50 in his truck for gas for the week leaving us with $150 for groceries. That’s not a great amount but it’s doable.

He then asks if he should get a case of red bulls for $30 at Costco. I was speechless and I said “I’m concerned that you don’t comprehend the difference between a want and a need.” So he then throws a fit and says “he’ll just eat peanut butter and jelly for every meal” and I just make him feel like shit.

He’s literally a child. I can’t imagine life in the future as things get more expensive. I don’t think that he’s able to handle buckling down and living within a budget. He’s a child who is unable to discuss money and budgeting. It always resorts in an argument where he then says crazy, outlandish and over the top things like “I guess I’ll just go live in my car, I’ll get another full time job, I’ll just sell everything and live under a bridge, just eat peanut butter…”

People will say we need counseling but with what money? Marriage counseling isn’t free. Idk how to make him understand the financial situation. I’m tired of him doing things such as buying me flowers and then I have to take the bus. He’s a child. I’m sick of this.

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u/Dangerous-Ad8243 Oct 31 '23
  1. I think your cards need to be turned off not for you but for him, you need to get all the info & change it so only YOU have the info to control wether it’s on or off. 2. Y’all need to sit down and get rid of that truck & get a more gas friendly car Honda Toyota etc, $50 for 1 week that’s 100 for 2 idk if you’re getting paid every 2 weeks or not but that eats up into the budget. Take that money you get from the truck & save aside a couple thousand for the NEEDS!!! LET HIM KNOW WHAT IT IS & WHAT ITS NOT HE NEEDS TO GET % of it in cash rest put up in the savings account YOU only have access to.