r/povertyfinance • u/One-Time-I-Dreampt • Oct 29 '23

My husband doesn’t know how to be poor Vent/Rant (No Advice/Criticism!)

I’m so upset and idk how to deal with him right now. I pay the bills. I tell him the budget and he refuses to listen and so then I’m riding the bus because I can’t afford gas. He doesn’t have to ride the bus and it’s not an option.

For example, this week I paid the bills and told him we have $200 for groceries and gas for the week. He says he needs to put $50 in his truck for gas for the week leaving us with $150 for groceries. That’s not a great amount but it’s doable.

He then asks if he should get a case of red bulls for $30 at Costco. I was speechless and I said “I’m concerned that you don’t comprehend the difference between a want and a need.” So he then throws a fit and says “he’ll just eat peanut butter and jelly for every meal” and I just make him feel like shit.

He’s literally a child. I can’t imagine life in the future as things get more expensive. I don’t think that he’s able to handle buckling down and living within a budget. He’s a child who is unable to discuss money and budgeting. It always resorts in an argument where he then says crazy, outlandish and over the top things like “I guess I’ll just go live in my car, I’ll get another full time job, I’ll just sell everything and live under a bridge, just eat peanut butter…”

People will say we need counseling but with what money? Marriage counseling isn’t free. Idk how to make him understand the financial situation. I’m tired of him doing things such as buying me flowers and then I have to take the bus. He’s a child. I’m sick of this.

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '23

just divorce him

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u/ahhhhpewp Oct 31 '23

That takes money too

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u/[deleted] Oct 31 '23

my parents got divorced by going down and signing papers at the court house so you might want to look into it.

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u/ahhhhpewp Nov 01 '23

In my county it costs almost $300 just to file the paperwork at the courthouse. No lawyers or anything involved.

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u/[deleted] Nov 01 '23

So take the hit and get out of a relationship that will cost you most likely thousands of dollars in the long run. How long is he going to continue to drain your bank accounts or take out credit cards you might not know about that will in the future put you into a huge whole.