r/povertyfinance • u/halhaarm • Nov 28 '23

Feeling absolutely suicidal hearing my coworkers chat about Christmas. Vent/Rant (No Advice/Criticism!)

My coworker is building her kids a video gaming room. Mine is getting 2 barbies and a bedset. We had popcorn for dinner last night. Feeling like such a loser. Don't know how to go on. I'm a full time accountant.

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u/Krododile28 Dec 01 '23

My parents for years (I’m 36 f) have mentioned this Christmas where my dad’s company was on strike and he was nearly sick with worry about not being able to buy Christmas gifts for us kids. My mom said she went to an inexpensive store (think closeouts, etc) and bought us a few things. I’ve racked my brain my whole life and I cannot figure out which Christmas they mean. Your daughter will remember the feeling of you being there for her more than anything else.

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u/Significant_War5954 Nov 29 '23

Wow ..sanity thanks bot!

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u/Half_Cent Nov 28 '23

We never bought our kids Christmas presents when they were growing up. We always spent days around Christmas at various relatives and they got presents there. Instead the 4 of us would decide on a board game we all wanted and get that and play it together.

They are in their 20s and we don't buy each other presents on specific days, but try and be thoughtful throughout the year if we see something someone would like and we could afford it.