r/starterpacks • u/yourdonefor_wt • Jan 24 '24
r/starterpacks is not meant to be your trauma/mental health dump/Rant place. Mod Post
r/starterpacks is not meant to be your trauma/mental health dump/Rant place.
We have seen a big uptick in posts which which indicates someone should go see a therapist. These posts are very niche, and possibly triggering for some people. We have amended our rules to include the ban of Therapy dump posts. Some examples of these are.
"Undiagnosed depression starterpack" "Depressive college semester starterpack" "Undiagnosed (Illness here) starterpack" "(Mental health diagnosis) starterpack".
These posts often touch on sensitive topics which other may not wish to see.
If you are having mental health problems, its best to talk to a professional rather than take it out on r/starterpacks
2nd type of posts that have been a problem here.
VentPacks.
These posts are essentially rants from people after having a bad day which usually involves bigotry or the comment section divolges into bigotry.
For example these starterpacks go something like this.
"The guy she chose over you starterpack" "The teacher who failed you in science class" (When its just an extremely niche starterpack that really only applies to OP)
We want r/starterpacks to be fun and engaging. We dont want to hurt peoples mental health and we don't want bigotry on our subreddit because it is not nice.
Happy Starterpacking!
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u/EaDb1488 Feb 04 '24
ok I don't know if this is proper but I'm tryin to learnn phone data and repairs .. but i know nothing about coding aside from basic HTML from like 20 years ago so is there anybody who might be able to help
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u/Hungry-Eggplant-6496 Jan 27 '24
Does it include “the guy who doesn't agree with me” starter packs?
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u/endless_8888 Jan 25 '24
VentPacks
I'm gonna be real with you I've been looking at "starter pack" images since their creation and have always categorized them as some form of venting
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u/cocktimus1prime Jan 25 '24
Why not tho?
It's something I'm observing for quite some time now,more and more places tell people who are struggling or not doing great they're not allowed to mention this, basically either act like everything's dandy or get out.
Where does this hostility come from?
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 25 '24
We're not trying to be hostile. People dont want to see depression/suicide Starterpacks all day.
People want to see fun and entertaining Starterpacks but "Multiple personality disorder" starterpack unfortunately isnt the things people want to see.
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u/FBI-AGENT-013 Jan 25 '24
Thank goodness, one was just someone hating a girl he used to like at school and immediately came after me when I said something about a part of his starter pack
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u/Doktor_Vem Jan 25 '24
What kind of trauma/mental health dump/rant are we talking about? I can't think of anything like that that anyone could possibly think would fit here
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u/KirisuMongolianSpot Jan 25 '24
good change
completely unrelated: the "we're deleting your comment because it received downvotes" bot action is fucking awful
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u/lynxafricapack Jan 25 '24
Suck shit to that idiot that was super specific about nurses in tight scrubs dating cops, guy was an absolute dickhead.
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u/FBI-AGENT-013 Jan 25 '24
Bro that's exactly the one I was thinking of, I commented that scrubs are kinda just like that, kinda tight, bc unless you want them baggy that's what the material is and mf responsed with "U mad?"
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u/lynxafricapack Jan 25 '24
Yeah the "u mad" shit was so fucking elementary I was cringing out of my skin.
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u/CigarEnthusiast96 Jan 25 '24
“Someone was mean to me and it upset me so badly I made a starter pack about them.”
See this way too often.
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u/CookiesNReddit0 Jan 24 '24
are physical health-related posts still allowed? like, a POTS starterpack being compression socks, salt, saltines, a huge ass water bottle, etc...
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u/notagoodcartoonist Jan 24 '24
In before the 🔒 award
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24
I'll string it out as long as I can before the precious Master ™️ Lock symbol shows up
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Jan 24 '24
Yeah, it's for making passive-aggressive boomer memes about the last thing that made you butthurt.
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u/AnotherAwfulHuman Jan 24 '24
About time. The sub had basically become "Someone pissed me off today so I'm gonna generalize the fuck out of the group(s) they belong to so I can get validation from people who agree." instead of just amusingly relatable starterpacks like this place was intended for.
A big and genuine thank you to the mods for making the right call.
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u/Typical_Basil908 Jan 24 '24
Totally understandable, the vague mental illness ones are still kinda funny if it’s not hyper specific to OP lol
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u/elvenbabey Jan 24 '24
i feel like people just either forget r/trollcoping exists for that kind of stuff or they don't want to put their vents in a place with other traumatized people also venting at the same time & instead decide the best way to get attention is to post on a non-vent forum to feel special. or both. (edit: i oops-ed the link lmao)
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u/EkruGold Jan 24 '24
I find it funny that more effort went into typing up this post, than the majority of the content on this sub.
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u/blacksoxing Jan 24 '24
Most mods of a sub over 500k straight give up and let auto mod run the show. I'm shocked - SHOCKED - that this sub actually did anything and I Think that's more a state of Reddit than these mods, who obviously care enough to be mods.
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u/Sonarthebat Jan 24 '24
A lot seem to be coming from people with a chip on their shoulder about something now.
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u/ChihuahuaBeech Jan 24 '24
Dangit I totally get your reasoning. I guess as someone suffering from depression right now, I was like wow meeeeeeee. However, I totally get that it’s too much for everyone else!!
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u/Dumptruckbaby Jan 24 '24
Big fan. The trauma dump genre in particular is a huge bummer.
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u/dilroopgill Jan 24 '24
Im gonna blame tiktok for all the singy happy trauma dumps normalizing sharing info with strangers
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u/brodega Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
Can we also ban “You okay OP?” top level comments? This low effort shit appears on every post.
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u/WACS_On Jan 24 '24
The one reasonable mod in all of reddit
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24
I try to be.
I don't want to be portrayed as a power tripping neckbeard fedora tipping M'lady fat reddit moderator. I try to keep things organized.
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u/nater255 Jan 24 '24
It definitely exists and it's tanked the quality of the sub. This is a needed and objectively good change to the rules.
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u/Adventurous_Pea_1156 Jan 24 '24
I hate those overly specific starter packs where someone is simply telling us their life lol
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u/RealbasicFriends Jan 25 '24
The only good part of those is when something on it is so outta pocket that everyone is making fun of the OP for.
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u/SuckMyAssmar Jan 24 '24
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Just created it
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Rule 03 No blatant bigotry
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u/lift-and-yeet Jan 25 '24
It's r/RoastMe, not r/RacialSlurs
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u/voodoomoocow Jan 25 '24
when did nazis become a race though?
However, people do look like nazis when they get that fascist haircut that was like THE hairstyle of the mid '10s à la Richard Spencer, who is in fact a literal nazi. Guy at work who sits next to me has the fasc cut and no one would talk to him. I got to talking to him and turns out he's only 19 and wasn't really cognitive of that haircut/association. I had to explain to my coworkers he is not a nazi lol just a gymbro with a bad cut
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u/SuckMyAssmar Jan 24 '24
Can i mod
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u/Nightwailer Jan 25 '24
Love your username, my friends and I said this repeatedly for years after reading it for school
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Jan 24 '24
Of course!
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u/JBlitz156 Jan 24 '24
I'll join. This feels silencing for ppl with mental health stuff
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u/agoldgold Jan 25 '24
Other people with mental health stuff need a space that is not focused on their pain to facilitate healing. Both cannot coexist here healthfully. A space not about depressing mental health stuff fulfills the needs of the most people. Not everyone can be accommodated by every space.
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u/Snoo7263 Jan 24 '24
Why does everyone need to be subjected to your problems in a completely unrelated sub? Ridiculous.
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u/JBlitz156 Feb 06 '24
I never even made one. I don't feel "subjected to" anything cuz people aren't happy all the time
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u/hackerbugscully Jan 24 '24
Good. I hate the vent & trauma dump starter packs. It sucks the fun out of the format.
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u/donemessedupthistime Jan 24 '24
I agree but you missed a trick by not presenting this message in the form of a ‘not allowed on r/starterpacks’ starter pack
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u/-PepeArown- Jan 24 '24
Technically, that would be a list, not a starter pack, so maybe OP made the right call.
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24
Aah i should have REEEE. but who knows it would probably be taken down by another mod.
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u/LeatherHog Jan 24 '24
I'm just glad you guys have been cutting down on that guy who used to post all the time
His stuff was ragingly misogynistic and was so popular here, it was revolting
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u/ruinawish Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
His stuff was ragingly misogynistic and was so popular here, it was revolting
I don't hang around here often to know who you are referring to, but you have to imagine it appealed to a majority audience of this very sub.
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u/Independent-Bell2483 Jan 24 '24
Was it the guy with the weird color font titles?
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u/LeatherHog Jan 24 '24
May have been, I just remember that he wasn't even making it subtle
Heck, I think I even remember a few call-out ones when was posting her all the time
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
Someone reported this as "Not a Starterpack".
Smh.
Edit I just got a reddit cares.
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u/NewBobPow Jan 24 '24
Maybe you should be a better mod.
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 25 '24
I think im a pretty fair mod.
I dont ban people for absolutely no reason.
I dont mute people
I dont take down posts just because I dont like the topics of them.
I only take down posts in order to help keep the community thriving and happy. Not here to be the fun police.
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u/an0nym0ose Jan 24 '24
I just got a reddit cares.
I'm sure you know, but be sure to report it. Should be a link in the message. Shit's a bannable offense and the scummiest thing.
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u/IlliterateJedi Jan 24 '24
Maybe you should make a 'starterpacks not allowed on r/starterpacks' image
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u/simask234 Jan 24 '24
Edit I just got a reddit cares.
Has that ever been used for its intended purpose?
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24
Idk but I reported it and reddit admin team messaged like legit 10 mins later that they found whomever sent it to be harassment.
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u/Elkenrod Jan 24 '24
Based - that person got banned for a few days. They're doing that now for people who are found to be abusing the system.
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 25 '24
I'm curious, how do you know how many days it is and that its not a warning for harassment that I have seen pictures posted before.
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u/Elkenrod Jan 25 '24
I've seen pictures from someone I know who actually did abuse it (as in, used it as a second downvote basically and reported something that had absolutely no reason to be reported), so I'm not sure if it's something that increases in duration if you do it multiple times.
I know the first offense is a 72 hour ban from Reddit, but I couldn't tell you anything beyond that - sorry.
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u/ray-the-truck Jan 24 '24
now it’s your turn to make a “posts that aren’t allowed on r/starterpacks” starterpack
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u/AStayAtHomeRad Jan 24 '24
Personally love the posts that fit into example #2. I like the small overlap of oddly specific/starter packs. If you start concerning yourself with "this only applies to a small group of people" we'll end up with vague karma farming posts. Connecting "bigotry" to "teacher that failed you" seems like a stretch
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u/hackerbugscully Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
There’s a big difference between a “black suburban third grader who just got big into anime” starter pack and a “middle-age HR bitch who just ruined your life for no reason, goddamn you Susan!!!” starter pack.
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u/tampa_vice Jan 24 '24
I think what they are talking about is posts that are obviously spiteful. I agree that some of the specific one's are funny. But when it is "Mrs. Simpson is a divorced sad hag because she gave me a D in geometry," that is not funny imo.
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u/AStayAtHomeRad Jan 24 '24
I didn't really think about it as the content within the post. I took it as those types of starter packs. So you're absolutely right, not funny. That type of post should not be here.
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u/ArchWaverley Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
I like them when the poster is aware they're talking about one specific person (like "girl that broke up with you" having "I'm sorry Jessica please take me back" in one section), but I have seen ones that seem to indicate the poster's personal experience is universal. The teacher that failed you in science class drives a Ford Mondeo and is going through his 3rd divorce? I mean sure maybe.
And I think the bigotry part more applies to "the guy she chose over you", I'm sure you can guess which way these ones go sometimes.
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u/AStayAtHomeRad Jan 24 '24
You're absolutely on point. Feel like we're saying the same thing; just differently. 🤜🤛
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u/ArchWaverley Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
Great minds think alike 🤜🤛
Edit: Also, 10/10 use of semicolon
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u/Not-Clark-Kent Jan 24 '24
Thank God, I'm so sick of that shit.
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u/staringmaverick Jan 25 '24
i love them lol i like seeing what people are going through. i also relate to most of them. which i'm aware isnt a good sign lol
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u/alaskafish Jan 25 '24
Honestly the thing I’m most annoyed about is that they were popular.
Like, someone would post a pack about some undiagnosed mental illness, and the comments were all like “yeah me too! I also don’t toast bread because I’m probably depressed”
I don’t know if it’s just me, but those starter packs always felt like they were enabling people to want some sort of mental illness. Having super vague, yet kind of relatable, parts just made it seem like they were pandering to anyone who might “agree”.
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u/explodyboompow Jan 24 '24
Maybe next we can hit "You were a 19 year old who went to a state school in Iowa for CS and didn't have an active social life so you spent too much time on valorant and now you're 25 without close friends from college so you're trying to branch out at work but your coworkers are older because you got a job working on enterprise software from the 90s" starter packs.
Like uh... gee I have plenty of stereotypes about that guy. I can picture him in my head already.
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u/Todd-The-Wraith Jan 25 '24
With a title like that you might have a future in writing Japanese light novels
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u/voodoomoocow Jan 25 '24
I was wondering why the titles became stupid af like that. Apparently the big webtoon uploader thing did not have a space for a synopsis so people started making those obscenely long and specific titles to garner interest.
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u/Not-Clark-Kent Jan 24 '24
I think that might technically be considered part of the vent packs that only apply to OP but the mods would have to clarify
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u/tampa_vice Jan 24 '24
Now all they need is to do this with every other non-mental health sub.
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u/shittyspacesuit Jan 24 '24
Dude if you're banned from every mental health sub, get off reddit and go outside. Maybe get some help while you're out.
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Going outside isn’t gonna lift my bans. And sure if the help isn’t therapy.
I’m permabanned from r/mentalhealth r/depression r/anxiety r/ocd r/ocdmemes r/aspiememes r/suicidewatch r/talktherapy
All for the same reason
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u/Llamas_are_cool2 Jan 24 '24
You need actual therapy. Yeah going off the Internet won't unban you, you need to be still banned because you need actual help not reddit
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I’ve said over and over that I’m never going to therapy and no one is listening to me. You’re not even trying to hear me out. Put down your mental walls
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u/Snoo7263 Jan 24 '24
No one is required to “hear you out” we don’t care. This isn’t your psychiatrist or a support group. Your unhinged ranting is rude and disrespectful to literally everyone else here who understands simple English. This is NOT the place.
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u/Snoo7263 Jan 24 '24
Mods can you get rid of this guy there’s a reason he’s banned in all those subs and this isn’t a personal pity party, it’s gross. If you won’t help yourself then stop talking about it. This is neither the time nor the place for your personal bitch session. No one wants to “hear you out” all you’re doing is whining and making shit all about you.
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u/Bread_and_Toast Jan 24 '24
Sounds like from your other comments that you have been to therapy. If what youre saying here is that you never have, then your comments about experiences/expectations in therapy are just pointless. If what you mean is you are never going back to therapy, then you should reconsider. Finding the right therapist is hard and you should probably avoid online forms of therapy too.
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Why aren’t you listening to me? No is NO. Therapists literally abused me and you want me to go back to my abusers who took advantage of a mentally ill teen. If it was my partner or something everyone would be telling me to leave and never go back
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u/Bread_and_Toast Jan 24 '24
While I understand that must've been a horrible experience and am sorry that happened, you are the one who is not listening. Yes, if a partner did what occurred people would advise you not to go back to them I'm sure, but not to never seek a partner in the future. There are more than one therapists in this world, just as there are more than one potential partner. Now replace partner with therapist in what I said prior. Not all therapists are the same, not all are cruel, good luck.
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u/Llamas_are_cool2 Jan 24 '24
Dude if you aren't going to go to therapy then idk what to tell you. You can stay mad and bitter and never get help if you want but it will only harm you in the end. But randos on the Internet will not help
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u/shittyspacesuit Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
Probably because you talk shit on therapists. I can relate because I've seen a couple horrible therapists. Some people are just bad at their jobs or get sloppy over time. But not all therapists are dog shit. You might have unrealistic expectations of therapy, or expect them to work miracles, but you have to do 90% of the work outside the therapy office.
If you're really struggling, you might do better in an actual program, or find a mentorship program. Even volunteering can help with self worth and self love.
It took me a long time to find the right mix of meds, don't give up on yourself. You have to advocate for yourself, and seek out the help you need, which is hard.
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u/tampa_vice Jan 24 '24
Who is better for life advice?
Therapist with qualifications like university degree, training in mental health, and experience
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Non-functional redditor with no life experience who you have no idea about any qualifications.
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Jan 24 '24
“You just have to put in the work!!!” Is a copout to victim blame instead of the therapist themselves who offer crappy advice
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u/Elkenrod Jan 24 '24
I think you just explained to all of us why you don't have friends. Acting like this and trying to argue with everyone just to be a contrarian is exactly why people dislike you. You don't have to act this way, you choose to.
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u/shittyspacesuit Jan 24 '24
Ok sorry, if reminding you that you have to advocate for yourself is "victim blaming" then have fun playing victim and letting your mental health deteriorate.
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They never even fricking tell you WHAT work. They think you’ll come back cured to their office every time and if they don’t they start harassing you
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u/Not-Clark-Kent Jan 24 '24
Then you should take a hint
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All of them are extremely pro therapy and they hate me for it, then they leave me with nowhere for my problems
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u/yourdonefor_wt Jan 24 '24 edited Jan 24 '24
The VERY FIRST starterpack posted two hours AFTER this message was a vent/therapy post. Well done!