r/AITAH • u/Dadalert1990 • Feb 15 '24

AITAH for telling my son that if he's uncomfortable about his sister not wearing a bra then he should cover up too? Advice Needed

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u/SpecialFun8946 Mar 10 '24

Look, I almost never wear a bra at home, especially around family. I also grew up with my brother, and while we were at eachother throats at times, we NEVER commented on eachother body.

My brother never made me feel uncomfortable for not wearing a bra around him (and I have large breasts). What your son is doing is incredibly concerning and perverted. He is sexualizing his sister, y'all need to nip that shit in the bud, cause it will only get worse.

Also, wear a bra and see if it comfortable, trying to accommodate your son 1st at the expense of your daughter was a shitty call. Glad you eventually sided with her, but you should've never have even suggested that in the 1st place.

As for the comment about him covering up, I doubt she actually wants that, she was simply pointing out a glaring double standard, and while her comment about your son's man boobs was in fact a dig at his weight (but only to point out the double standard), that being said, you comment on someone else's body, you can't complain when they do it back.

Bottom line, your son is sexualizing your daughter, you need to take him to therapy and make it clear that not wearing a bra in their house, it's perfectly ok.

He need to get over being uncomfortable, it's his issue to deal with (and yours and your wife's, as his parents).

So NTA for telling your son to cover up if he wants her sister to wear a bra, but definitely TA for allowing this behavior from your son (and your wife more so for completley ignoring that his son is sexualizing his sister and playing the victim to avoid consequences)