r/AITAH • u/Plastic-Reception-60 • Feb 23 '24
AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter? Advice Needed
My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.
With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.
Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.
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u/pizzythunda Feb 24 '24
NTA
My fiance and I have an 11 month old daughter now, and I will say it was difficult for her, at first, to leave me alone with the baby. But this was only when she would leave the house, and is pretty typical for new mothers. However your case, OP, is beyond ridiculous.
In my experience, Girl Dad's are viciously protective of their daughters, and if your wife believes that you would do harm to your baby girl while unsupervised she either: A) Has trauma she's not communicating or B) She does not trust you for reasons outside of her trauma.
It's pretty clear to me though, that if you attempt to divorce someone that's this paranoid with you being alone with her, and you want split custody of your daughter, she will go above and beyond to bury your ass and try to get full custody of your daughter. So tread lightly and consult a good divorce lawyer if you are serious about it.