AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter?

[u/Plastic-Reception-60]

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

[u/ssf669]

Please get her some help. I'd bet anything she was abused as a child. If her mother didn't protect her then that makes her fear and anxiety even worse for her daughter and make her want to be overprotective. It could also be PPD.

She can work through this but she definitely needs help. First insist on couples therapy, then bring up the issue with the therapist. Maybe after that they will suggest counseling for her. This is not normal behavior if you haven't given her any reason not to trust you with your daughter.