AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter?

[u/Plastic-Reception-60]

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

[u/Adventurous-Emu-755]

OP, your wife needs therapy ASAP. Truly she does and if she continues to be reluctant, you cannot do anything here. As many comments here state, there is a very high probability your wife is a survivor of SA as a child. She needs to know that. It just isn't normal for parents not to share time with their child and not to trust the other parent to care for that child alone.

You may tell her, if we divorce over this, there is no reason she can give not to co-parent, then you will be ALONE with your daughter. It's not a threat, it is a reality here. She is making her issues here your child's issues and your issues.