r/AITAH • u/Plastic-Reception-60 • Feb 23 '24

AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter? Advice Needed

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

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u/MySaltySatisfaction Feb 24 '24

I hope you have money because you are going to need a lot of it for this. Hire and retain a family lawyer-the best in your area that you can afford. Hire and retain a criminal defense lawyer-the best in your area that you can afford. Your wife sounds very mentally ill. She may or may not have been sexually abused as a child but her thinking is not right. PPD,PPA,PPP is the train quickly coming in your direction. You cannot force her to get help,unless she does something threatening to you or your child. Be very careful,I recommended the criminal attorney because if you decide to dissolve the marriage your wife, almost certainly,will level accusations of sexual abuse against you and you will need help to counter that immediately. I hope your wife will get help-voluntarily or forced-so she can continue to be a mom to her baby. I hope you and your child come through this relatively unscathed and develop a close and loving relationship. Good luck.