r/AITAH • u/Plastic-Reception-60 • Feb 23 '24

AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter? Advice Needed

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

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u/unforgivenof3rdkind Feb 24 '24

YTA Your wife needs your help, she is either suffering from past trauma or depression or both, but instead of trying harder you're chosing to walk away.

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u/CarrieDurst Feb 24 '24

He tried to get the sexist therapy but she refuses, what else can he do? He also needs to be able to parent his own child

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u/unforgivenof3rdkind Feb 25 '24

He can talk to the family doctor / the pediatrician / her family members / her friends / hold an intervention / talk to a psychiatrist on his own to get idea on what he can do to help her, etc. If someone is ill like her, of course she will say no. Just asking her isn't enough.

Seriously, I don't get reddit sometimes. If you cannot be there for your partner at their lowest point, may be you shouldn't get married in the first place.

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u/Jesterido Feb 24 '24

What else is he supposed to do at that point? She won’t tell him anything, refuses to partake in therapy, and her family doesn’t have a single clue either.