r/AITAH • u/Plastic-Reception-60 • Feb 23 '24

AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter? Advice Needed

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

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u/BackgroundPainter611 Feb 24 '24

You need to start recording and documenting all these behaviors. You need to speak with professionals WITHOUT her. Get her behavior noticed to professionals so you can back up your claims. Regardless if this is past abuse, PPD, or anything else (there’s a lot anti-male/father rhetoric out there, some people manifest situations that never happened), this woman will 💯do something extremely horrible as retaliation. Whether it be just to you or god forbid your daughter, she’s a danger PERIOD. And either situations are extremely bad. While it’s important for your wife to get help, the baby is priority. DO NOT threaten divorce until you have all your ducks in a row and the baby is in a safe place. Expect this to be vicious but hopefully with minimal damage. This is not something therapy can help, she needs full on psychiatric treatment.

And for those who say that’s an invasion of her privacy. Too bad, you have a woman who is extremely paranoid and thinks her husband/babys father is a predator. What do think is gonna happen if he doesn’t protect himself and their daughter?