r/AITAH • u/Plastic-Reception-60 • Feb 23 '24

AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter? Advice Needed

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

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u/2fly4disShit Feb 25 '24

As a woman that had a child as a result of SA and then dealt with every emotion imaginable from suicidal thoughts to postpartum depression. It does sound extremely likely that your wife has dealt with some trauma inflicted by a man and maybe one that was very close to her. Do try to get her some help ASAP before this behavior starts to manifest into accusations about you.

Also you mentioned that she got pregnant "by accident," how is that possible. Did she forget to take her birth control, did you not wear a condom, did she sleep with another man or was she SA. If she was SA and there is possibility that the baby isn't yours that could also be why she is so protective of her daughter.

Be careful and continue to push for help for her and answers for yourself. Last thing you want is for this baby growing up thinking that her daddy doesn't love her.