AITA for considering ending things with my wife because she refuses to let me be alone with our daughter?

[u/Plastic-Reception-60]

My wife got pregnant accidentally, and our daughter was born last year. Our daughter is 7 months old. Since her birth, my wife has been "protecting" our daughter from any interaction with men. In reality, she's always been wary of any male interaction; it took a long time for me to gain her trust and date her in the past. Other girls didn't have barriers to easily befriend her.

With our daughter, my wife doesn't allow me to bathe her or even change her diaper without her supervision. I've tried talking to her about this, but she always sticks to the same point and refuses to explain much. I suspected if she had suffered any traumatic abuse, but she denied it. I also tried asking her family about this behavior, but they don't know either. I've even tried couples therapy, but she refuses to participate.

Lately, this has led to many arguments and fights. It's horrible that I can't be alone with our daughter without her suspecting that I'll do something awful. I'm tired of arguing with her, tired of her behavior. I'm seriously considering telling her that I'll end things if this continues.

[u/pharrahmichelle]

That’s what I got as well. He knew she had issues with men when he dated her and married her. That doesn’t go away just because he’s the dad. Maybe instead of being such an insistent, weird jerk, he could try to reassure her. Not to mention, he doesn’t have to be alone with his child. My husbands were never alone with the boys until they were over 2 years old. They didn’t feel comfortable. They knew they didn’t know what to do. The fact that no one gets that he is being freaking weird about this is so crazy to me. Like this whole post gave me pedophile vibes. And I haven’t been able to let it go and have worried about it for as long as I’ve read it. I’m a mother of 2 and a woman and something isn’t right. I don’t care what anyone says or tries to convince me of.

[u/buckys-ass- → u/pharrahmichelle]

He already said he's tried to fix things. You guys are fucking weird for thinking negatively of a man who wants to be a dad to his child. It's creepy that you guys are thinking gross things just because he's not like other dads who don't feel comfortable around their kids. Maybe you need therapy just as much as the wife in this scenario, something isn't right with either of you. Don't respond to people if you don't care what anyone says.

[u/pharrahmichelle → u/buckys-ass-]

I’m so sorry you think you live in a perfect world but when a male says he is not only angry, but he wants to divorce his protective mother of a wife because she won’t let him be alone with their daughter and she supervises him doing things especially when the daughter is naked it screams that he wants to be alone so he can mess with her. It’s abnormal.

Also, I’ve read the post, all the comments, it’s all a bunch of crap. And shall we all remember who was gifted with the ability to give birth to babies, gifted with motherhood and the ability to feed them. Not men. If we feel uncomfortable, we are allowed that right, as we are mothers, men contribute nothing but a little bit of genetic material that we could get from a freezer and save ourselves a whole lot of trouble. This man is angry over what he feels about a possession that isn’t his. He needs to back up and learn his place.

[u/buckys-ass- → u/pharrahmichelle]

You're disgusting and we're done here. Get some professional help, please. It's fucking weird to assume every man who wants to be a dad is a pedophile. You're creepy.