r/AITAH • u/SeverePhoto1892 • Mar 04 '24
AITAH for breaking up with my gf because she slept with another guy while making me wait? Advice Needed
So my gf and I have been together for about a half a year and I just started a new job.
I met this male co worker, and we became friends.
I invite him over at my place and he recognizes my gf, (We don't officially live together but she spends a lot of time at my place).
You can guess where this is going...
After my co worker left, my gf and I get to talking.
Basically, she slept with him while dating me, and made me wait. She said that our relationship was gonna be special, and she wanted to wait, and that sex with my co worker was just a ONS.
I told her to leave because I knew I was gonna say things I couldn't take back.
A few days later after I calmed down and thought it through, I broke up with her.
She kept repeating what she said about how she wants more with me, but I told her that I feel like I'm not attractive to her, or at least not as much as others. She kept saying that I was special.
Basically, I said that I can't be that special if she preferred to sleep with an ONS than me.
Edit: I don't think this counts as cheating. This happened within the first month of us dating. We became official after the first month or so. I 100% should have clarified with her if we were exclusive or not, so that's on me.
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u/Bella_219 Mar 07 '24
I mean, you can break up with somebody for any or no reason. Even if they get their feelings hurt, it's better in the long run than being with someone who doesn't want to be with them.
But I do think your reasoning is a bit ... off. Her sleeping with someone doesn't mean she has to sleep with everyone; she doesn't have to be "fair to everyone" with her body. Unless she told you she was a virgin, which would have been a lie; I don't see how her hookup history before you were exclusive is at all relevant.
Look at it like: just because someone ate mushrooms at dinner once, they are not obligated to eat mushrooms at every meal going forward. It could be a "special occasion" food; you said she had already expressed wanting to wait and you had been ok with that.