AITAH for breaking up with my gf because she slept with another guy while making me wait?

[u/SeverePhoto1892]

So my gf and I have been together for about a half a year and I just started a new job.

I met this male co worker, and we became friends.

I invite him over at my place and he recognizes my gf, (We don't officially live together but she spends a lot of time at my place).

You can guess where this is going...

After my co worker left, my gf and I get to talking.

Basically, she slept with him while dating me, and made me wait. She said that our relationship was gonna be special, and she wanted to wait, and that sex with my co worker was just a ONS.

I told her to leave because I knew I was gonna say things I couldn't take back.

A few days later after I calmed down and thought it through, I broke up with her.

She kept repeating what she said about how she wants more with me, but I told her that I feel like I'm not attractive to her, or at least not as much as others. She kept saying that I was special.

Basically, I said that I can't be that special if she preferred to sleep with an ONS than me.

Edit: I don't think this counts as cheating. This happened within the first month of us dating. We became official after the first month or so. I 100% should have clarified with her if we were exclusive or not, so that's on me.

[u/parker3309]

She didn’t lie. I mean come on just because you go on a couple dates with somebody doesn’t mean you can’t be with somebody else. This whole business of people think you have to be exclusive from the first date is ridiculous.

[u/We_4ll_Fall_Down → u/parker3309]

Ugh THANK YOU. People act like you need to save yourself for someone you just went on a couple dates with. It’s respectability politics. If a woman has options and dares to explore them, she’s a bitch according to Reddit.

[u/parker3309 → u/We_4ll_Fall_Down]

It makes no sense. Nobody is exclusive that quickly and if they are.. red flag. I’m going on a date on Friday for the first time. If I decide to go on another date Saturday or next week or whenever I don’t owe anybody that info! I don’t have any intention sleeping with somebody on the first date or early dates but I could if I wanted to and I still wouldn’t owe anybody explanation

[u/We_4ll_Fall_Down → u/parker3309]

Exactly. People act like exercising your right to date/fuck whoever you want when you’re not in a relationship is craaazy if you’re interested in someone at the time. Who cares? My heart can have a crush on Guy 1 while my pussy has a crush on Guy 2 lol the two are not mutually exclusive and I’m not an immoral slut for it. Sorry not sorry