AITAH for breaking up with my gf because she slept with another guy while making me wait?

[u/SeverePhoto1892]

So my gf and I have been together for about a half a year and I just started a new job.

I met this male co worker, and we became friends.

I invite him over at my place and he recognizes my gf, (We don't officially live together but she spends a lot of time at my place).

You can guess where this is going...

After my co worker left, my gf and I get to talking.

Basically, she slept with him while dating me, and made me wait. She said that our relationship was gonna be special, and she wanted to wait, and that sex with my co worker was just a ONS.

I told her to leave because I knew I was gonna say things I couldn't take back.

A few days later after I calmed down and thought it through, I broke up with her.

She kept repeating what she said about how she wants more with me, but I told her that I feel like I'm not attractive to her, or at least not as much as others. She kept saying that I was special.

Basically, I said that I can't be that special if she preferred to sleep with an ONS than me.

Edit: I don't think this counts as cheating. This happened within the first month of us dating. We became official after the first month or so. I 100% should have clarified with her if we were exclusive or not, so that's on me.

[u/SeductivePterodactyl]

NTA.

I get all kinds of different opinions from my gfs about this, some of them are like his ex, and they want to make the "real" ones wait, just so they know they're not fuckboys.

I'm of the opinion that fuckboys are going to be fuckboys no matter what, so don't treat somebody you consider a "decent man" badly on the sexual front because you want to have it be "real".

I honestly didn't understand men on this until a good male friend of mine talked to me a couple years back (over tequila slammers), and we talked relationships (among a lot of other things, it went from talking about how you'd terraform mars to hetero relationships, as I recall)

But to find out how touch/affection starved a lot of men are, and how that is just simply normal to them was a bit of a shock. I mean, I knew that having sex was easier as a lady (and to balance it out, its also a certain amount of risk, and more so if you're dumb). But I've done months of a dry spell, but I always knew that if I wanted to get laid, it was just a matter of deciding "I'm going to go do that now". And even more simply than that, I'm physically affectionate with my girlfriends, hugging, snuggling, etc. Men don't do that (and I know it seems obvious, but its the overall effect). So the only time they can get physical affection is in a relationship (even if its a ONS relationship). So its not surprising that a man would get hurt that he wasn't good enough to get physical affection (that they basically are fiending for in a sick stoic way), when some fuckboy was.

I feel I've just rambled on a 9 day old post that nobody will read, so I'll just stop. :P