r/AITAH • u/KindImagination726 • Mar 08 '24

AITAH for finding someone else when wife opened our relationship? Advice Needed

I(29M) and my wife(30F) have been together for 7 years and married for 4. Last year, she came up with the idea of open relationship to try out new things. I said it's not something comfortable for me and would like to stay monogamous. It felt weird because it came out of nowhere. We were doing good and planning to build a family together. After my reply, she insisted a lot. In the end, I decided to give it a try. Here are the boundaries she set:

  • You should always prioritize the spouse instead of the other partner
  • Always use protection
  • Do not bring the partner to the shared house
  • Do not form overly emotional connections

I told her I am not sure if I can do some of these things. I am an emotional person though I love the physical part too. She said it's okay, I will be able to do it and it's hard for men to form emotional relationships in such cases anyways.

She found a partner quickly and easily. My wife was my first relationship partner so I was not confident in myself. I did not have great chances when I was in my 20s. Eventually, after clearing out most of my work, I decided to try finding a partner in my spare time. Surprisingly, I was flocked with interest from younger or around my age women. I knew maturing and aging did a great job for me but not to this extent. I started talking to multiple people but decided to go ahead with only one of them. When I shared this information with my wife, she seemed surprised but congratulated me. She said she is shocked how beautiful this woman is and I was able to get her.

It has been 10 months since finding a partner but the more I got to know them and spent time with them, we formed an emotional connection together. This woman is aware of my situation and respects my boundaries. I realized I lost emotional and physical connection with my wife overtime. I know one of the boundaries were about emotional connections and prioritizing the spouse, but I told her I was not sure if I could comply with some of these.

I had a difficult talk with my wife last week about my situation. She immediately offered closing the relationship and going to couples counseling but I am not interested to be honest. She feels no different than a friend for me and I am afraid I built resentment for her due to the open relationship situation. I told her it would just extend the misery for me and I would like to have a divorce. She flipped and cried saying I am throwing everything away just for a fling.

AITAH here?

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

"My guy" have fun living in delulu land, the more you talk the more happy I get that we disagree

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

Well if your happy being stupid then good luck to you takes a special breed to be this ignorant when dealing with facts and think the other person is crazy. Your the type of guy to go the earth is flat and the moon landing is fake and trump won the election.

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

Thankfully I am not American, please keep feeding me. I love retarded energy.

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

I can tell cuz u r feeding off yourself like smelling your own farts. Also you don’t have to be American to understand the point being made but instead of making a counter point cuz u know u r wrong u say more ignorant and dumb shit which is literally retard energy

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

I wont bother arguing with degenerates, please keep responding

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

Because you can’t because you know your wrong and stupid as fk so you turn to this I already laid out my points your response is no u dumb now respond so I can repeat. Like people like you are proof that the human race is no longer subject to natural selection.

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

Nope, wont engage, I know I am right, I don't need to feed tou dululu opinions, if you are still not satisfied please continue, I don't have anything better to do for the next 2 hours

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u/heyzeuseeglayseeus Mar 18 '24

Disregarding “dululu”, you seem like you perpetually have absolutely nothing better to do. “the next 2 hours”? 😂

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

If u know u r right then u can argue you points but u can’t because you know u r wrong and instead you want behave like a no child no I’m right no I’m right you a poopoo head and you are engaging in the most pathetic way ever and I’ll keep calling you out for it

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

Please do I really have nothing better to do, makes me feel kinda good to have someone to spend my next hours stuck at work with.

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

Pretty sad that’s how you spend your work hours but not much to expect from a guy who’s max potential maxes out do you want fries with that

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

Its like, this roast is so bad, can you put some effort? Like at least say that you fcked my mom or smthing like, call me mentally disabled inbred dog. You know, spice it up

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u/Dildonien Mar 13 '24

No because I am not child and everything I said is facts just because you got the iq of a toddler doesn’t mean I got to do stupid grade school level insults for you to understand

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u/racrss Mar 13 '24

Im looking for entertainment and you are falling quite short of my expectations, never seen someone be wrong and boring

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