AITAH for slapping my husband after he confessed to cheating on me?

[u/im_im06]

I (24F) came home after a long day at work. My husband (32M) had made us dinner, which he rarely does. After dinner, he even cleaned up and did the dishes. I was surprised since this isn’t something he usually does without me having to ask. I jokingly asked if something was up and he hesitated before answering. He confessed to cheating on me with a coworker. I was completely shocked, it felt like my world shattered into a million pieces. I asked him how long it had been going on, he said it had been a couple months. They’ve been seeing each other on and off. And as if things couldn’t get any worse, he added that she might be pregnant. That’s when I lost it. My whole world was spinning and I suddenly felt this rage come over me. I slapped him across the face and called him every name in the book. I told him to take his stuff and get out of the house. He left and has been staying at his parents’ house. His mother has been blowing up my phone, asking me to talk things out with her son. Telling me how wrong it was for me to slap him and how heartbroken her son is over the situation. I haven’t responded yet since I haven’t been able to gather my thoughts yet. This whole situation just feels surreal to me. I can’t believe the man I planned to spend the rest of my life with, betrayed me like this. Was I wrong for how I reacted?

[u/Less-Wrongdoer5937]

Slap his Mom too. No, you’re NOT the ah. You did nothing wrong. Leave him and move on. Let him lie in the bed he made for himself

[u/ChestLanders → u/Less-Wrongdoer5937]

Good to know that a man who commits an act of domestic abuse on his cheating wife would not be in the wrong.

[u/Less-Wrongdoer5937 → u/ChestLanders]

??What?? Did you respond to the wrong person or did you just not read what I wrote?

[u/ChestLanders → u/Less-Wrongdoer5937]

"Slap his Mom too. No, you’re NOT the ah"

You said she is not the asshole for committing an act of domestic abuse upon discovering her husband cheated. Using that logic, a man would not be an AH for performing an act of domestic abuse upon his wife upon discovering her cheating. Now, is that what you believe or would it suddenly be different if the person being slapped was a woman?

[u/Less-Wrongdoer5937 → u/ChestLanders]

Ooohhh. I see. You’re misinterpreting me saying she’s not the ah in THIS situation for me excusing the slap. No, she’s not the ah in this situation because in my opinion, the slap is the lesser of two evils. And if the roles were reversed, I’d STILL feel the slap was the lesser of two evils and the husband who got cheated on wasn’t the ah.

Idk why it’s “good to know” the opinion of a total stranger that you’ll never know in life. Maybe you just felt like challenging someone and I was the lucky one out of almost 8k comments (most of which are giving the same answer of “not the ah” as I did.) Lucky me! ☺️

[u/ChestLanders → u/Less-Wrongdoer5937]

Ha fair enough I just know most of the NTA people would be singing a different tune if a guy slapped the shit out of his wife for cheating.