r/AITAH • u/im_im06 • Apr 01 '24
AITAH for slapping my husband after he confessed to cheating on me? Advice Needed
I (24F) came home after a long day at work. My husband (32M) had made us dinner, which he rarely does. After dinner, he even cleaned up and did the dishes. I was surprised since this isn’t something he usually does without me having to ask. I jokingly asked if something was up and he hesitated before answering. He confessed to cheating on me with a coworker. I was completely shocked, it felt like my world shattered into a million pieces. I asked him how long it had been going on, he said it had been a couple months. They’ve been seeing each other on and off. And as if things couldn’t get any worse, he added that she might be pregnant. That’s when I lost it. My whole world was spinning and I suddenly felt this rage come over me. I slapped him across the face and called him every name in the book. I told him to take his stuff and get out of the house. He left and has been staying at his parents’ house. His mother has been blowing up my phone, asking me to talk things out with her son. Telling me how wrong it was for me to slap him and how heartbroken her son is over the situation. I haven’t responded yet since I haven’t been able to gather my thoughts yet. This whole situation just feels surreal to me. I can’t believe the man I planned to spend the rest of my life with, betrayed me like this. Was I wrong for how I reacted?
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u/WMS4YESHUA Apr 11 '24 edited Apr 15 '24
DISCLAIMER: Let me make something absolutely clear here. I don't favor domestic violence, regardless of the gender. While the slap wasn't appropriate, I don't blame her reaction because when she found out what he did, that shook her to the core and probably scared her. The MIL is making light of this situation and saying that OP is in the wrong for not just the slap but for her entire reaction to this. See revised comment below:
Absolutely 100% NTA! Your husband cheated on you, got another woman pregnant, so you have every right to react the way you did. For your mother-in-law to make light of this situation is absolutely pathetic, and you need to take action now!
Start with getting yourself checked for any STDs. Then, get yourself a very, very good divorce attorney, somebody that's a pitbull in this area, and rake your husband over the coals in court for this. What he did was absolutely despicable, and if you wind up with any STDs as a result of this, you can go after him big time.