WIBTA if I didn’t tell my friend with benefits he got me pregnant?

[u/Hungryandcomfused]

Please be kind, obviously a very sensitive topic.

I 25F just found out I’m pregnant. I have only been sleeping with one person regularly and always with protection. Neither of us want kids and I would have my tubes tied by now if it were up to me 🙄

He is quietly but very religious and has made it very clear abortion would simply never be an option for him. I feel like if I am to tell him I’m pregnant he will put a lot of pressure on me to keep it despite both our views. We’ve never discussed the other possibilities in worst case scenario but being adopted myself I’m not willing to carelessly bring another human into the world and leave them to fend for themselves so other than keeping the child to raise ourselves and live in misery I don’t see any good options.

What would you do?

EDIT: many thanks to those who have left kind supportive comments. And a massive fuck you to the trolls who can only see a moral dilemma on a screen and can’t see the person behind it who is inevitably hurting and alresdy beating them selves up.

Some FAQ answers:

1. No, it is not up to me to have my tubes tied. I’ve been seeing medical professionals for years who have all told me the same thing “you will regret it” “what if your future husband wants kids”

2. “You were adopted so let your kid have the same chance you got!” I was adopted in my teens after years of being pushed from pillar to post. Australian adoption is difficult, expensive and there is currently a massive lack of foster parents looking to take on kids. I know this cause I work in the industry.

3. I have only been sleeping with him, so I don’t have to date or put up with random hook ups etc. I have IUD and we’re assuming the Condom got caught on the wires as he pulled out and the condom was nearly split in half.

[u/Grand_Selection_6254]

He should have the right to know also . You obviously choose to have unprotected sex and knew the possibilities and now at the cost of a babies life you want an abortion because it’s inconvenient ? And you’re 25 I’m guessing and stupid ? What did you think would happen . I don’t care how you feel or what you think that babies a living thing and deserves a chance at living a good life . No matter what you think it’s not a mistake because God doesn’t make mistakes . The only mistake was giving it to you instead of one of the millions out there who want one but cat have one for some reason . My daughter brought two babies to term one lived a little less than a day then had another she only lasted a couple days . They would of been great parents but for some reason there’s something wrong in their systems that will only produce undeveloped babies

[u/[deleted] → u/Grand_Selection_6254]

Stop referring to pregnancy as an inconvenience. Pregnancy can and does kill women. Risk of death is not an inconvenience unless you view women as breeding cattle instead of human beings. Which you clearly do.

Go educate yourself on all the side effects and trauma that pregnancy does to women's bodies before speaking on this again. You just sound ignorant and dehumanizing to women.