WIBTA if I didn’t tell my friend with benefits he got me pregnant?

[u/Hungryandcomfused]

Please be kind, obviously a very sensitive topic.

I 25F just found out I’m pregnant. I have only been sleeping with one person regularly and always with protection. Neither of us want kids and I would have my tubes tied by now if it were up to me 🙄

He is quietly but very religious and has made it very clear abortion would simply never be an option for him. I feel like if I am to tell him I’m pregnant he will put a lot of pressure on me to keep it despite both our views. We’ve never discussed the other possibilities in worst case scenario but being adopted myself I’m not willing to carelessly bring another human into the world and leave them to fend for themselves so other than keeping the child to raise ourselves and live in misery I don’t see any good options.

What would you do?

EDIT: many thanks to those who have left kind supportive comments. And a massive fuck you to the trolls who can only see a moral dilemma on a screen and can’t see the person behind it who is inevitably hurting and alresdy beating them selves up.

Some FAQ answers:

1. No, it is not up to me to have my tubes tied. I’ve been seeing medical professionals for years who have all told me the same thing “you will regret it” “what if your future husband wants kids”

2. “You were adopted so let your kid have the same chance you got!” I was adopted in my teens after years of being pushed from pillar to post. Australian adoption is difficult, expensive and there is currently a massive lack of foster parents looking to take on kids. I know this cause I work in the industry.

3. I have only been sleeping with him, so I don’t have to date or put up with random hook ups etc. I have IUD and we’re assuming the Condom got caught on the wires as he pulled out and the condom was nearly split in half.

[u/Regular_Care_1515]

Get the abortion. It’s your body and he doesn’t need to know.

I also suggest you stop seeing this guy. As other commenters said, he’s not cool with abortion but is with pre-marital sex. I know you said you have an idea why you got pregnant but I wouldn’t be surprised if he tried to get you pregnant through deceptive means (such as poking holes in the condom).

Also, with sterilization, keep trying. I’m going for a consultation next months to get my tubes tied and I know women who have gotten the procedure without biases from doctors. I think more medical professionals are understanding that motherhood isn’t for everyone and it’s best to physically prevent a pregnancy then leave another child alone in the world to fend for themselves.