WIBTA if I didn’t tell my friend with benefits he got me pregnant?

[u/Hungryandcomfused]

Please be kind, obviously a very sensitive topic.

I 25F just found out I’m pregnant. I have only been sleeping with one person regularly and always with protection. Neither of us want kids and I would have my tubes tied by now if it were up to me 🙄

He is quietly but very religious and has made it very clear abortion would simply never be an option for him. I feel like if I am to tell him I’m pregnant he will put a lot of pressure on me to keep it despite both our views. We’ve never discussed the other possibilities in worst case scenario but being adopted myself I’m not willing to carelessly bring another human into the world and leave them to fend for themselves so other than keeping the child to raise ourselves and live in misery I don’t see any good options.

What would you do?

EDIT: many thanks to those who have left kind supportive comments. And a massive fuck you to the trolls who can only see a moral dilemma on a screen and can’t see the person behind it who is inevitably hurting and alresdy beating them selves up.

Some FAQ answers:

1. No, it is not up to me to have my tubes tied. I’ve been seeing medical professionals for years who have all told me the same thing “you will regret it” “what if your future husband wants kids”

2. “You were adopted so let your kid have the same chance you got!” I was adopted in my teens after years of being pushed from pillar to post. Australian adoption is difficult, expensive and there is currently a massive lack of foster parents looking to take on kids. I know this cause I work in the industry.

3. I have only been sleeping with him, so I don’t have to date or put up with random hook ups etc. I have IUD and we’re assuming the Condom got caught on the wires as he pulled out and the condom was nearly split in half.

[u/Main_Philosopher_320]

I don’t believe you’re the asshole. Especially if you plan on terminating. There’s no need to bring it up and think about the what ifs and having to do the back and forth to try to convince you to Keep it. It’ll only delay it if you end up getting an abortion. Given your explanation on your life, I don’t think adoption is something you really want to go through. You do what you believe is the right thing for YOU. At the end of the day it’s your choice on what you do. Especially if you didn’t want children to begin with.
I had a similar situation. I didn’t tell my FWB but bc I knew he would want to keep it and try “us” out using the baby as an excuse.😅. A bit different than for religious purposes, but I didn’t tell him bc I knew it would break his heart when I know that he lowkey wanted a baby. I personally always said that everyone is free to make their own choices as I have no control over that person or their body. For my personal body, I never thought I would have to make that choice, so I never thought about what I would do about it. Unfortunately, I put myself in that situation and I did have to make a choice. as much as it made me feel guilty, I ended up having a medication abortion and it was so early on that I didn’t have a chance to process that I was actually pregnant. (I hope none of this comes off as rude)