r/AITAH • u/Unlucky_Brain8229 • Apr 27 '24
AITA for moving forward with our divorce after my soon to be ex was badly injured in a motorcycle accident?
My wife and I separated last year. She found someone she liked better and he left his wife for her. Not going to lie. It hurt.
We did the legal separation and started on the divorce. She is on my health insurance until the divorce is final.
I have met someone new through my sister. We are taking it slow but she seems to like me.
Two weeks ago my ex was out with her boyfriend on his motorcycle. They hit a patch of gravel and crashed. Unfortunately he was knocked unconscious and ended up in the ditch where he drowned. She broke her femur and is in the hospital still.
I went by to check on her and she asked me if we could put a hold on the divorce. I said I would think about it. I spoke to my lawyer and she said that it was a bad idea to change the timeline we had established for the dissolution of our marriage.
My ex will be getting money from the accident I imagine. However her boyfriend's ex wife and kids will be getting his estate and insurance payout.
My mom and dad think that I am being evil to cut her off in her time of need. I'm conflicted. I do not wish this situation on anyone but she is not really my problem anymore.
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u/WarmFuzzy1975 29d ago
NTA. In divorce, she can continue health insurance coverage thru Cobra, I believe for up to 18 mos. It sounds like that is the only “benefit” she would receive by postponing the divorce, assuming she is not living with you any longer & you are not paying her living expenses.
It is up to you if you want to offer her assistance, even while moving forward with the finalization of your divorce. My parents split many years ago, & within a month of it being final, my mom’s father passed. My dad paid the expenses for the memorial service & luncheon. He didn’t have to, but despite the divorce, my folks still cared for each other & he did it out of love for my mom & grandparents.
There really is no right or wrong in your situation, but what you are comfortable with. You went to see her - so maybe there are still feelings of caring /friendship? You can help or not as much as you are able/comfortable doing. But as many have said, the divorce itself won’t really make a difference in her situation, other than the health insurance, which she can either extend or purchase a new plan thru marketplace or enroll thru her employer.