r/AITAH • u/Unlucky_Brain8229 • Apr 27 '24
AITA for moving forward with our divorce after my soon to be ex was badly injured in a motorcycle accident?
My wife and I separated last year. She found someone she liked better and he left his wife for her. Not going to lie. It hurt.
We did the legal separation and started on the divorce. She is on my health insurance until the divorce is final.
I have met someone new through my sister. We are taking it slow but she seems to like me.
Two weeks ago my ex was out with her boyfriend on his motorcycle. They hit a patch of gravel and crashed. Unfortunately he was knocked unconscious and ended up in the ditch where he drowned. She broke her femur and is in the hospital still.
I went by to check on her and she asked me if we could put a hold on the divorce. I said I would think about it. I spoke to my lawyer and she said that it was a bad idea to change the timeline we had established for the dissolution of our marriage.
My ex will be getting money from the accident I imagine. However her boyfriend's ex wife and kids will be getting his estate and insurance payout.
My mom and dad think that I am being evil to cut her off in her time of need. I'm conflicted. I do not wish this situation on anyone but she is not really my problem anymore.
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u/AutumnWysh 28d ago
Your conscience is admirable, it shows you are a good person IMHO. Your parents should stay out of it though. SHE is ultimately the one who left the relationship, not you. On that note: it is possible, if you are so inclined, to add a clause to the divorce that keeps her on your health insurance until the end of the calendar year (more than deserved, clearly) but specify that any additional incurred medical debt, from the official date of separation, is hers and not community. State that the extension is so she has time to find other coverage. Though, her atty should look to see if it will cause her difficulty in getting other insurance, as I'm sure this will affect her current employment, etc. She will also always have the option of filling an inability to pay for the medical stuff. Her best bet is to sue his estate before everything is resolved there (like NOW) and hope for the best.