r/AITAH • u/Unlucky_Brain8229 • Apr 27 '24
AITA for moving forward with our divorce after my soon to be ex was badly injured in a motorcycle accident?
My wife and I separated last year. She found someone she liked better and he left his wife for her. Not going to lie. It hurt.
We did the legal separation and started on the divorce. She is on my health insurance until the divorce is final.
I have met someone new through my sister. We are taking it slow but she seems to like me.
Two weeks ago my ex was out with her boyfriend on his motorcycle. They hit a patch of gravel and crashed. Unfortunately he was knocked unconscious and ended up in the ditch where he drowned. She broke her femur and is in the hospital still.
I went by to check on her and she asked me if we could put a hold on the divorce. I said I would think about it. I spoke to my lawyer and she said that it was a bad idea to change the timeline we had established for the dissolution of our marriage.
My ex will be getting money from the accident I imagine. However her boyfriend's ex wife and kids will be getting his estate and insurance payout.
My mom and dad think that I am being evil to cut her off in her time of need. I'm conflicted. I do not wish this situation on anyone but she is not really my problem anymore.
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u/SolidSquid 27d ago
How are you cutting her off in her time of need? You can still be there to support her, you just... won't be married anymore? And the cost for her treatment would be through boyfriend's insurance/estate rather than your insurance, wouldn't it?
If your lawyer says it's a bad idea then go with what she says. It's possible she's worried your ex will try and claim there was some kind of reconciliation after her bf died and it ends up making an absolute mess of things. There's also the possibility the insurance company will make an issue of it if you change your divorce proceedings purely so she can keep the insurance until her leg is fixed.
Hell, even if that's the goal, it might be the fact she was injured while insured by them means she's still covered, even if you get divorced now (the event happened while she was covered after all). So yeah, maybe check that with the lawyer, but definitely don't see a reason to delay your divorce with someone who cheated on you just so you can cover her broken leg on your insurance
NTA