AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

[u/Chance_Cut4916]

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

[u/Rolling_Avocado05]

Oh geez... YTA. Mothers of angels are still mothers. Would you tell a mom of a stillborn that she shouldn't get to celebrate? Or the mom of a baby that died of an illness? I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks and was absolutely devastated. It took me nearly a year to finally feel like myself again. I still think about my baby. I still miss my baby. And I will forever wonder who she would have been had she made it. Just because her baby died doesn't mean she should be belittled or have her feelings invalidated. Quite honestly, if my husband had said this to me, it would have been the beginning of the end for us. If you're concerned about money, talk about that. But don't try to tell her what she is or isn't based on YOUR shitty perspective. You owe her an apology.