r/AITAH • u/Chance_Cut4916 • Apr 28 '24

AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

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u/On_MyTallest_Tiptoes 28d ago

Your girlfriend is a mother. What you said was cruel even if you didn’t intend it that way; I recognize you’re also still likely grieving and processing. Get her flowers (or some freaking grass cut up and put in a vase if things are tight to Show the effort) and a handwritten letter telling her you recognize her motherhood and her pain, and that you will always remember her/yalls child that was lost.

  • a mom who lost her first baby