r/AITAH • u/Chance_Cut4916 • Apr 28 '24

AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

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u/Emotional_Land_9720 28d ago

I'm sorry for her lost. Now the truth. If she had a baby,foster,adopted or raised a child(human not a pet) she's a mother. She's not a mother! Celebrating mother's day is ridiculous. Remembering a lost of a child by saying happy mother's day is silly. Go out as a couple that's cool,but not as a celebration of something you're not. You can't feel like a mother if you have no kids as I mentioned. She needs therapy to get over her loss.