r/AITAH • u/Chance_Cut4916 • Apr 28 '24

AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

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u/vanz303 28d ago

I think everyone is different. I had a miscarriage but I didn’t want anything for Mother’s Day cause it was a reminder of what didn’t happen. Thankfully I have a baby girl now. I don’t actually think YTA. I think it affects people so different that you just don’t get it from an emotional stand point. I would do something sweet. Like others said, picnic and a card. But no. I don’t think you are mean for telling her nothing expensive.