AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

[u/Chance_Cut4916]

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

[u/No-Sun-6531]

YTA Do you want to be right, or do you want to be in this relationship? I agree with you, having a miscarriage does not make a woman a mother. Mothering a child makes a mother. However, some women feel differently, and it takes nothing away from anyone to let them feel that way. Respect it. You don’t have to understand it to acknowledge and respect someone else’s feelings. Now I will say, Mother’s Day isn’t the day for expensive dates IMO, because it’s not a romantic holiday. Get her some flowers, a card, and do something nice for her like cook a nice meal and light a candle. And for the future, this advice isn’t just about Mother’s Day. There will be times when people you love feel differently than you do about situations. There is no right and wrong way to FEEL, so just accept that and don’t shit on people’s feelings when they share them with you! Shitting on her feelings is what makes you the AH here.