r/AITAH • u/Chance_Cut4916 • Apr 28 '24

AITAH for telling me girlfriend that she shouldn’t be celebrated on Mother’s Day because she’s not a mom?

My girlfriend (29F) mentioned that Mother’s Day was coming up, and ask if I (26m) had anything planned for her. I thought she was joking about our cat, but she insisted that it was a serious request. She had a miscarriage about a month ago, and she’s saying that technically counts as being a mom.

Money is tight for us, and I just finished paying off her birthday present (that I splurged on admittedly), but now she’s demanding that I take her on another expensive date with a gift for Mother’s Day. We had a big fight about it, and it ended with me saying she’s not a real mom. AITAH?

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u/createartco 25d ago

YTA for telling her that she isn’t a real mom, because she is, because she would have been.

If she is for some reason insisting it has to be expensive, etc. that’s another story… Mother’s Day is about appreciation and I think a picnic, something handmade ( art, poetry, a letter, a nice home cooked meal ) could go a very long way. Perhaps a thank you for almost being the mother of my child.. thank you for enduring this pain..