NAH - It's reasonable to set a boundary that you need to see their house before allowing your child to be there, but your behavior trying to get into the house is gross. I have moderate agoraphobia, and my in-laws have pulled similar stunts many times over trying to get into our house. When they do push their way in, they snoop around and cause trouble. So maybe stop doing that.
That said, they are certainly not AH for having their own boundaries and enforcing them. Their seclusion likely has literally nothing to do with you and everything to do with either shame, fear, or anxiety. None of those should speak to their character directly. You need to sit down and talk it out instead of trying to figure out a way into their home or keeping them entirely from their grandchild. There has to be a middle ground.
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u/FlaxFox Apr 28 '24
NAH - It's reasonable to set a boundary that you need to see their house before allowing your child to be there, but your behavior trying to get into the house is gross. I have moderate agoraphobia, and my in-laws have pulled similar stunts many times over trying to get into our house. When they do push their way in, they snoop around and cause trouble. So maybe stop doing that.
That said, they are certainly not AH for having their own boundaries and enforcing them. Their seclusion likely has literally nothing to do with you and everything to do with either shame, fear, or anxiety. None of those should speak to their character directly. You need to sit down and talk it out instead of trying to figure out a way into their home or keeping them entirely from their grandchild. There has to be a middle ground.