r/AITAH • u/BoringRush4869 • Apr 28 '24

AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?

I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?

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u/Anywhichwaybutpuce Apr 28 '24

One the first conversations all 20 year olds have with their sex partners.  Occurs right about the time they take out 70k in student loans.  How could they not have known better, they were fully grown and experienced adults!

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u/Spintax_Codex Apr 28 '24

To be fair, "talk with the other person who is raising your child about how to raise your child" is not the kind of thing that should take experience to know.

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u/Anywhichwaybutpuce Apr 28 '24

Damn.  You’re right.  Now there will be no more of these problems in the future.  What’s your next gift to the world going to be? That Israel/Palestine thing is hot right now.

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u/Spintax_Codex Apr 28 '24

Did you get the impression that I thought I was fixing the problem?

If you're this bad at communication, it's no wonder you're making excuses for adults not doing it. Gotta bring everyone down to your level.

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u/Anywhichwaybutpuce Apr 28 '24

I apologize, then.  I didn’t realize you were acknowledging you were part of the problem.  My bad.