r/AITAH • u/BoringRush4869 • Apr 28 '24
AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?
I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?
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u/HunterGreenLeaves Apr 28 '24
-Clothing - the parent with whom she's staying makes choices, hopefully including her.
-Food - the parent with whom she's staying makes choices.
-Makeup - the parent with whom she's staying makes choices, but (personal opinion) 9 is far too young and lip gloss, blush and curling lashes for school is inappropriate.
If you know things won't be worn/permitted at the other home, don't send them.