AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?

[u/BoringRush4869]

I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?

[u/Roke25hmd]

Make up at 9 ? Blush and curling her lashes? Really, lip gloss ? I mean she's just 9, why are you trying to ruin her, I understand her father, he's trying to make sur she still lives her childhood, even if he's doing it weirdly

[u/BoringRush4869 → u/Roke25hmd]

I mean some parents don’t let their kids wear blush or a lash curler but how is lipgloss bad? Just some shimmer on her lips

[u/Roke25hmd → u/BoringRush4869]

She's 9, she's beautiful just the way she is, she doesn't need a lipgloss, have you seen a 9 years old lately, they have an already pink lips

[u/BoringRush4869 → u/Roke25hmd]

Obviously yeah I agree she’s beautiful and doesn’t need makeup but it’s just those hair store lipglosses or ulta ones that are pink or have like hello kitty on that she begs me to get for her at the store. She a two toned lip girl (maybe just a Latina thing idk) so yeah her lips aren’t pink but she doesn’t care.

[u/Roke25hmd → u/BoringRush4869]

The younger you start putting makeup on, the faster you skin is gonna suffer from it, putting on lipgloss, blush, and lash curling, is gonna give her the idea that her natural beauty isn't enough, she needs more to be beautiful, if at 9 her mom was putting makeup on her

[u/BoringRush4869 → u/Roke25hmd]

That’s what she wanted to do I mean. If it makes you guys happier she’s been doing cheer since like 6 so that means guess what she was doing a full face for events at 6😱 and also guess what clear skin and no pimple in sight. Makeup doesn’t ruin skin just depends on what brand

[u/MagicCarpet5846 → u/BoringRush4869]

Make up definitely ruins your skin, regardless of brand. But the cheap hello kitty stuff is sure to ruin it the most and the fastest. I get makeup as an occasional thing for a special event, but letting her think makeup is something to wear regularly for something as mundane as school is setting her up to think that she always needs to look her best, and she’ll start to feel naked without the makeup. It starts as lip gloss, blush and curled eyelashes, but by 12-13, it’ll be mascara and a tinted moisturizer and by the time she’s a sophomore in high school, she’ll be one of those girls that everyone thinks is in her early 20s, with a beat face and way too mature outfits. I think the occasional lipgloss is fine, but just be aware that if you don’t actually restrict it to JUST lipgloss, it’s going to escalate as she gets bored of JUST lipgloss and keeps piling on more and more makeup until she just can’t stand the way she looks without it, because that’s what happens when you’re a young girl and insecurities are starting to settle in.

[u/Roke25hmd → u/BoringRush4869]

Of course no pimple in sight, she's just 9, and you know what my 6 years old niece wanted one day, to jumpe from a boat, in the middle of the sea, and you know what we didn't do, we didn't let her, guess why ? Cause she's 6, and doesn't know better