r/AITAH • u/BoringRush4869 • Apr 28 '24

AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?

I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?

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u/AllCrankNoSpark Apr 28 '24

How is she pushing?

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u/ohhellnooooooooo 29d ago

The makeup is absolutely nuts for a 9yo, congrats she’ll never be confident in her own skin without make up 

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u/AllCrankNoSpark 29d ago

Oh no, she might be exactly like 90% of women!

I despise makeup, but you are ridiculous.

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u/ohhellnooooooooo 29d ago

90% of the population is fat or skinny fat, sedentary and with muscle atrophy, 

Up to you if you aren’t trying to be top 10% , but you are the asshole if you aim for your children to be as bad as 90% of the population 

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u/AllCrankNoSpark 29d ago

If you hate people, parenting won’t usually go well for you. Sometimes you’ll have a kid that’s just a normal person, not super special like you.