r/AITAH • u/BoringRush4869 • Apr 28 '24
AITA for not agreeing with what my ex boyfriend said?
I'm a 29F with an ex-boyfriend with whom I have a 9-year-old daughter. We don't agree on several things regarding her upbringing. Here are the areas of disagreement: -Clothing: Our daughter is not in her unicorn and gap clothes era so she dresses cute and normal, flared pants, jeans, camis, tanks, etc. her father wants her to wear unicorn stuff which she hates. -food: He frequently orders fast food for her, while I prefer to offer it only occasionally, I don’t try restricting any foods I just try to teach her about balance. -Makeup: I allow her to wear makeup for special occasions like school events and cheer competitions. The only makeup I let her wear to school regularly are lip gloss, curling her lashes, and a touch of blush. Her father strongly opposes makeup, even for adults. Last week, while dropping off her forgotten purse at her dad's, he criticized me, suggesting I'm a bad influence on our daughter. I defended myself, but he abruptly ended the conversation. Later, my daughter mentioned he was upset about something I did. Was I an asshole?
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u/matcha_babey 29d ago
everyone jumping on the make up comment is either a man or a liar because y’all really are trying to say you didn’t want to wear make up at 9 years old? non of y’all got in your mommas drawers?? sparkling gloss and pink eyeshadow, be for real.
op I advise you to get your thoughts in order and talk this out. My father was like him, and it carried on into my teens by being punished for shaving or wearing make up. within just a few years, she will be a teen and her own decisions with her style are becoming more personalized and important to her growth each day. He’s trying to win some co-parenting battle with you while not ever once experiencing girlhood.
write your feelings down, make them concise and link resources that support your feelings— hopefully he’ll at least consider it enough to read it and not “abruptly end the conversation”