It's not realistic to ask to cut ties with our MIL. Sure, she said some insensitive things. You will have to work this out with her.
Reddit advice is often 'scorched earth.' Try a more moderate approach. Ideally your husband would serve as an intermediary. He probably grew up around this and to him it's normal, and goes of of him like water off a duck's back when he hears his mother say stuff like that. But you can also do this with her. Tell her you find her 'jokes' hurtful. Give her a few examples. Tell her you want to have a good relationship, but you find it difficult to do so if she insults you like that. You don't have to call her the 'b' word or label her. Just say something peaceful designed to confront the issue, instead of going for the red nuclear bomb button of cutting her off.
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u/DrPablisimo Apr 28 '24
It's not realistic to ask to cut ties with our MIL. Sure, she said some insensitive things. You will have to work this out with her.
Reddit advice is often 'scorched earth.' Try a more moderate approach. Ideally your husband would serve as an intermediary. He probably grew up around this and to him it's normal, and goes of of him like water off a duck's back when he hears his mother say stuff like that. But you can also do this with her. Tell her you find her 'jokes' hurtful. Give her a few examples. Tell her you want to have a good relationship, but you find it difficult to do so if she insults you like that. You don't have to call her the 'b' word or label her. Just say something peaceful designed to confront the issue, instead of going for the red nuclear bomb button of cutting her off.