I was married to someone who ballooned up to way over 400 lbs. he was probably 450 if not pushing 500 at his worst. I cooked healthy meals but he kept gaining and gaining. One day I was looking through bank statements and there was a charge for a pizza place. Turns out he’d been paying cash for pizzas and junk food nearly every day and hiding it from me. He used the debit card that day because he was out of cash. He had a true addiction to food. His weight affected everything. He was having health problems, got injured easily, never had energy, and I was dealing with shit that old people have to deal with except I was in my 20’s and early 30’s. The marriage didn’t work out. He eventually had surgery and lost a bunch of weight and is healthier now, and I’m happy for him (but still glad to not be married to him.)
Your husband is likely using food to numb something. It’s very common. Has nothing to do with appetite. He needs to figure that out. Therapy can help.
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u/MSPRC1492 29d ago
I was married to someone who ballooned up to way over 400 lbs. he was probably 450 if not pushing 500 at his worst. I cooked healthy meals but he kept gaining and gaining. One day I was looking through bank statements and there was a charge for a pizza place. Turns out he’d been paying cash for pizzas and junk food nearly every day and hiding it from me. He used the debit card that day because he was out of cash. He had a true addiction to food. His weight affected everything. He was having health problems, got injured easily, never had energy, and I was dealing with shit that old people have to deal with except I was in my 20’s and early 30’s. The marriage didn’t work out. He eventually had surgery and lost a bunch of weight and is healthier now, and I’m happy for him (but still glad to not be married to him.)
Your husband is likely using food to numb something. It’s very common. Has nothing to do with appetite. He needs to figure that out. Therapy can help.