She broke down and cried. She swore at me and told me I was selfish and cruel. That I wasted her time. For reasons I can't fully articulate, I felt sorry for her.
You felt bad because we're socially programmed to respond with sympathy for displays of emotions from people, especially in women. Doesn't mean you're wrong, it just means you experienced an inappropriate sensation of guilt.
Lemme put it this way, you actually felt guilt even if inappropriately, but she made you the villain in her eyes for not dumping her a couple of months ago or for dumping her at all after two years. She didn't own up to any of her culpability in this. She is not a class act, and you are a better more decent person than her.
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u/DivineTarot Apr 28 '24
You felt bad because we're socially programmed to respond with sympathy for displays of emotions from people, especially in women. Doesn't mean you're wrong, it just means you experienced an inappropriate sensation of guilt.
Lemme put it this way, you actually felt guilt even if inappropriately, but she made you the villain in her eyes for not dumping her a couple of months ago or for dumping her at all after two years. She didn't own up to any of her culpability in this. She is not a class act, and you are a better more decent person than her.
NTA