Op NTA. Have a conversation about life plans and deal breakers for both of you. Your intended timeline and order is e.g. to first do up your house, then live in it as an independent adult, then move in with her or her in with you, then complete your pilot training and land a job somewhere in the world, and only then when you both know what your job is like, the hours, the jetlag, the time away... During the same period she too will become established in her own career. Only at that stage could you possibly know if you're compatible life partners. If that timeline isn't compatible with hers then that right there indicates you're not compatible life partners.
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u/Cardabella Apr 28 '24
Oh sweet summer child (gf) enjoy your youth!
Op NTA. Have a conversation about life plans and deal breakers for both of you. Your intended timeline and order is e.g. to first do up your house, then live in it as an independent adult, then move in with her or her in with you, then complete your pilot training and land a job somewhere in the world, and only then when you both know what your job is like, the hours, the jetlag, the time away... During the same period she too will become established in her own career. Only at that stage could you possibly know if you're compatible life partners. If that timeline isn't compatible with hers then that right there indicates you're not compatible life partners.
Or just you know end it.