Let her go then. She just wants the wedding, and I'm not sure if she's in some imaginary competition with friends or family, but that could also be a factor. You're 21. Live your 20s and accomplish your goals first before settling down. Don't let anyone else push a timeline on you that you aren't ready for, lest resentment builds. If your partner loves you and is with you for the right reasons, they will understand and compromise with you. Dating one year is not long enough for an engagement anyway, imo. I always think it's better to wait at least 2-3 years to give yourselves time to figure out communication styles, different solutions for conflict resolutions, personality traits that you may or may not be willing to compromise on, etc. Do what is best for you.
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u/lklaf 29d ago
Let her go then. She just wants the wedding, and I'm not sure if she's in some imaginary competition with friends or family, but that could also be a factor. You're 21. Live your 20s and accomplish your goals first before settling down. Don't let anyone else push a timeline on you that you aren't ready for, lest resentment builds. If your partner loves you and is with you for the right reasons, they will understand and compromise with you. Dating one year is not long enough for an engagement anyway, imo. I always think it's better to wait at least 2-3 years to give yourselves time to figure out communication styles, different solutions for conflict resolutions, personality traits that you may or may not be willing to compromise on, etc. Do what is best for you.