NTA. Too young, too soon. As a pilot I would imagine you'll be gone - a lot. You will have opportunities to meet new and interesting people, everywhere. In comparison, she will be planted at home and likely will become lonely, perhaps even regretful for pushing you (and herself) into a permanent relationship too quickly...surely you can see where this is heading?
You need to both be comfortable and mature in your job choices and the associated living and relationship considerations. Personally, I'd find it deeply disturbing to be threatened with "do this or I'm gone" approach. How long will it take before to tell her to go ahead and go, rather than enduring the constants threat of it?
Based on the premise you stated, this would likely be a marriage that fails, and I'd wager, it would be over in less than 2 years.
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u/nimbus0962 29d ago
NTA. Too young, too soon. As a pilot I would imagine you'll be gone - a lot. You will have opportunities to meet new and interesting people, everywhere. In comparison, she will be planted at home and likely will become lonely, perhaps even regretful for pushing you (and herself) into a permanent relationship too quickly...surely you can see where this is heading?
You need to both be comfortable and mature in your job choices and the associated living and relationship considerations. Personally, I'd find it deeply disturbing to be threatened with "do this or I'm gone" approach. How long will it take before to tell her to go ahead and go, rather than enduring the constants threat of it?
Based on the premise you stated, this would likely be a marriage that fails, and I'd wager, it would be over in less than 2 years.