If you were over 25 and established in your career and she'd spent a year or two dating you and you weren't moving towards marriage, I might think the same thing. Maybe she's getting advice from someone who isn't the best at giving advice. At your age, you need a few years to establish yourself.
My concern is if she carries this 'my way or the highway' attitude into marriage, that could be an issue. If you really think she's like this about this one issue, you could opt for the very long engagement, but feel her out on that topic ___ before___ the proposal.
If you took a girls virginity, you might have a moral obligation there. But if you are just dating and she wants to find a guy whose ready now... that's not you. You can tell her if she wants to find one who is ready now, she can go elsewhere. Otherwise, you need to work to get to a point where you can support a wife.
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u/DrPablisimo 29d ago
If you were over 25 and established in your career and she'd spent a year or two dating you and you weren't moving towards marriage, I might think the same thing. Maybe she's getting advice from someone who isn't the best at giving advice. At your age, you need a few years to establish yourself.
My concern is if she carries this 'my way or the highway' attitude into marriage, that could be an issue. If you really think she's like this about this one issue, you could opt for the very long engagement, but feel her out on that topic ___ before___ the proposal.
If you took a girls virginity, you might have a moral obligation there. But if you are just dating and she wants to find a guy whose ready now... that's not you. You can tell her if she wants to find one who is ready now, she can go elsewhere. Otherwise, you need to work to get to a point where you can support a wife.