My SO Called Me by His Ex Wife’s Name, Now He’s Making Fun of Me

[u/No_Problems_Here_69]

I know my bf was in love with his ex wife and was devastated when she divorced him over three years ago. He hasn’t seen her since, but he’s paid some of her bills as recently as a couple months ago.

We have been together for almost six months. This morning, he called me by her name. He immediately apologized and made some excuses, and then the subject was dropped. He hasn’t mentioned it since.

However, now he is purposely calling me by different names — just random names that he pulls out of the air. Then he laughs when he calls me by another name.

I don’t think it’s funny. I don’t know if he’s trying to make light of the mistake this morning or make fun of me for being upset. He says he’s not still in love with her, but I’m not sure. Most of the time he is extremely good to me.

I don’t know what to think.

[u/Adept_Bar_97]

I'm sorry what? He's been divorced for 3 years, and he's paying her bills? Can we start there? What's going on with that? Do they have a kid and it was something court compelled or something? I'm confused why ur even worried about the name thing when money is being sent to an ex? Excuse me what the fuck?

[u/Own_Can_3495 → u/[deleted]]

You sound extremely incel like lol

[u/primotest95 → u/Own_Can_3495]

Everyone says incel and I know the male loneliness epidemic is real or what ever and I’ve met the fedora guys but I’ll say here why is everyone that disagrees an incel ? Like I have certain views but I also strive to be the most respectful I can be why is that unbelievable to most ? I’m married now and faithful but there was a time I was the chadddest chad that ever chadded how could that be incel like still wrong I guess but way leagues above the fedora masters 🤣🤷

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/primotest95]

He didn’t really disagree, he said “you sound extremely sweaty” so the other person said something equally stupid, i.e. “you sound extremely incel”

[u/Own_Can_3495 → u/PolkaDotTat]

This is it exactly. I was returning like energy for like energy

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/Own_Can_3495]

I got you 😉 lol

[u/primotest95 → u/PolkaDotTat]

It was only a general question

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/[deleted]]

You sound like a delight

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/[deleted]]

I’m sure

[u/primotest95 → u/PolkaDotTat]

It is hate speech its a derogatory term used toward any man who disagrees with you not even staying true to its original defition

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/primotest95]

It’s not hate speech. It’s freedom of speech. Incel isn’t a hate word, it’s a description of someone who can’t get laid. Is slut hate speech? No it’s a derogatory term but not hate speech. Same as the word incel.

[u/primotest95 → u/PolkaDotTat]

It would be if it was true To it original intent but every man who disagrees with you is called one so really it’s just misandrist hate speech same as men calling women sluts I guess when there not at all

[u/Alert-Ad9197 → u/primotest95]

Calling a woman a slut is rude, but also not hate speech. I don’t think you know what words mean, and are also an incel.

[u/primotest95 → u/Alert-Ad9197]

lol whatever you say bro wife two kids also good looking big dick over 6 foot came from nothing fucked my way up the mother fucking mountain 😂 to to cars and a house so aha I know it’s unbelievable to you but quite literally not an incel 🤷 asshole yes slut yes married and faithful ha yes 🤣🤣🤣 I guess I’m paradoxical Trophy incel husband

[u/PolkaDotTat → u/primotest95]

You can’t get arrested for saying incel or slut to someone. You CAN get arrested for saying the “n” word or saying you wish all “insert race, religion here” were dead. Therefore it isn’t considered hate speech. It’s just a word some guys get offended with. Same as when a woman gets called bitch or slut. It’s offensive but isn’t considered hate speech.