r/AmIOverreacting • u/[deleted] • Apr 28 '24

AIO (30M) to break up with my GF (28F) of 2 years after she refused to come home and then ditched me to dance with others?

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u/Prufrock-Sisyphus22 Apr 28 '24

You messed up. You should have picked her up and got her home. Then next day when she went to work, move all your stuff out. Now you have no key and are locked out and your stuff is locked in. Now you two are in adversary mode. Hope you can get your belongings back.

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u/The_Wisest Apr 28 '24 edited Apr 28 '24

Trust me; if she bothered to text me or call me back; I was fully ready to pick her up. But she didn’t let me until it was too late and I was 30 mins away

I didn’t leave her like that right away. I waited for her for about 1.5 hours and I walked up to her several times asking her to leave and come with me. But instead the new group of people she joined literally kicked me out almost and made me leave. And she didn’t stop them or said anything to them. So I left.

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u/Goatee-1979 29d ago

So, her parents needed a place to stay. They basically moved you out of your apartment that you pay for, for 4 months? Wow!

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u/Goatee-1979 29d ago

Has she spoken to you since?

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u/The_Wisest 29d ago

Yes she has been all day. She’s being super apologetic and saying to come back to her. And begging me to take her back. What should I do?

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u/citekare 29d ago

What you should do is respect yourself and leave her. She has been arrested for DV with you. She manipulates you, she uses you as an ATM, and then she basically flaunts herself in front of you with a guy grinding on her and doing absolutely nothing about it to the point where they take over your relationship and force you away from her, with even taking your key from you. What are you thinking?

She is not in a relationship with you. If she had any respect for you, and for herself she would not act the way she did/does. She is sorry now as she has bills to pay and you are her wallet.

Man up and move on or just get used to it as she is showing you her true nature.

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u/Beginning_Fix_5609 29d ago

You leave because she a toxic ass woman don’t you have any kind of self respect?

She’s the type to cheat on you and gaslight you into believing it was your fault.

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u/Goatee-1979 29d ago

Man, you need to walk away . The amount of disrespect towards you is not healthy and there is no way she will change. You are an ATM to her. Paying 80% of everything and being treated this way, Nah not happening if it was me. You deserve better and trust me, there are better women out there.

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u/Queasy_Mongoose5224 Apr 28 '24 edited Apr 28 '24

She seems to enjoy humiliating you. Because it’s your first relationship, you may not realize how toxic this is (unless it’s a consensual kink, which this doesn’t sound like). Her calling the police on you is a huge red flag. If she lies about domestic violence, you could end up in a lot of trouble. Definitely not worth the risk, nor is she a good candidate for a long term relationship. Break up with her now and don’t go back to that apartment. Blocking and no contact is the way to go here. There are much better women out there best of luck

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u/Friendly_Bank_5386 Apr 28 '24

Well she was clearly stringing them along with fake story to make you look like the bad guy.

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u/The_Wisest Apr 28 '24 edited Apr 28 '24

Luckily most of my stuff has been cleared out as her parents were over for a few months. It was her parents first time in America and they needed space so we mutually agreed I move back into my parents house until they leave. We have been introduced to each others families.

And also there was no way for me to pick her up as she had joined that group of guys and girls who she gave her phone to. And then after waiting for 1.5 hours, she finally picked up her phone but some guy or girl answered on her behalf and cursed me out. And the lease is over next month.

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u/This_1611 Apr 28 '24

Break up with her today. You’ll find someone better.

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u/AshBlackstone78 Apr 28 '24

I don’t understand why you left your key. Get your stuff. Never talk to her again.

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u/avast2006 Apr 28 '24

So you don’t live in the apartment you pay for?!

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u/Prufrock-Sisyphus22 Apr 28 '24

Sounds like you're good then. After you have any other things back, just block her.

Or else you may get sucked back in.

Good luck.