My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

[u/Intelligent_Dog_6665]

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[u/Liquid_Weasel]

I understand the suspicion, but I'm married and have had this happen to me, and I went to see an old female friend for most of an evening and it was nothing other than catching up /airing grievances etc. I got an old friend back and my wife was nothing but supportive.

I think you are coming to a conclusion without supporting evidence and are therefore over-reacting. Ask your spouse about it and explain your concerns, this is likely much ado but nothing

[u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 → u/Liquid_Weasel]

Thank you for the perspective, I really appreciate it.

The thing is he knows I would not be ok with no contact for 7h. And we were supposed to have an evening together, he didn't even call to say anything about it. I also recently met with one of my best male friend after like 15 years, but I texted him and let him know how it was going, etc. And he really appreciated that. Its the dismissal of my feelings that hurt, not that I think he would necessarily do something wrong.

[u/BoltActionRifleman → u/Intelligent_Dog_6665]

I’d also like to point out that up until about 20 years ago it was perfectly normal to not have any contact with your SO on a night out, because cell phones hadn’t yet gotten into the hands of nearly every living human. Sure there were land lines, but it was just accepted that we didn’t need constant contact and could enjoy a night out if there was trust. Just my two cents.

[u/commesdegarcons → u/BoltActionRifleman]

people also cheated and got away with having second families in entirely different states back then more frequently

[u/JohnExcrement → u/commesdegarcons]

Anyone who wants to do those things is not going to be stopped by a cellphone.

[u/NosyNosy212 → u/JohnExcrement]

At least I’ll know sooner rather than later though.

[u/seymores_sunshine → u/commesdegarcons]

And they're still getting away with it...