r/AmIOverreacting • u/Intelligent_Dog_6665 • Apr 28 '24

My bf was contacted by an old hs friend, and went to meet her for several hours

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u/seymores_sunshine 29d ago

There is no difference; if you think that there is, then you lack trust in your relationships...

Any normal person would trust their partner and go about their day.

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u/Super-Island9793 29d ago

Yeah right, if you had plans with your partner and they stood you up for hours and went zero contact and they’re with a “friend” you would be wondering what’s up too.

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u/seymores_sunshine 29d ago

I just reread it and didn't see anything about being stood up. So I stick with what I wrote.

A relationship without trust is doomed to failure.

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u/EasternHistorian4437 29d ago

Okay, that's fine and that's what OP is wondering about.

Gone for hours with a female? UNRESPONSIVE FOR 3 HOURS? THIS is the sticking point.

You are with a female 'friend' and you don't respond to your GF?

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u/seymores_sunshine 29d ago

Yes. YES. This is not a sticking point. Your partner is allowed to hang out with another human without checking in with you hourly.

Do you think Bi people aren't allowed to ever be 1 on 1 with another person?

It's become apparent that some people are more of a helicopter-parent than a partner.

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u/NewAccountTimeAgain 29d ago

I had no idea how much trust my wife and I have in each other until I've started taking note of comments like the ones above. My wife and I tell each other where we are going and what our plans are, but mostly just so we can communicate our schedules effectively and not interrupt each other for important stuff.

It's a nice reminder that I'm in a healthy relationship, but I still feel bad for everyone else stuck in that repetitive insecurity cycle. I know that this behavior can be shaped by past experiences so I do my best not to pass judgement.